When it comes to meeting my husband one day, I'm a little worried. Not
because I'm afraid it won't happen (okay, that's a complete lie, but moving
on)
Some are a little unrealistic, some are must-haves and others will
probably pop up along the way, but in no particular order, here are the things
that I'll need from my future husband.
I need you...
1. To say -- and write -- loving things to me a lot.
I'm absolutely in love with words. And especially loving words. Even if
it's as simple as "I love you" on a Post-It by the Keurig once a
week, do it. I'll also settle for a text message (or 20), too.
2. To ask my dad for my hand in marriage.
And my mom, too, while you're at it. I know it's old-fashioned, creepy
and a bit anti-feminist, but you know what? I don't care. I'm convinced he'll
say "yes"
3. To be adept at balancing our incomes.
Though I'm pretty financially secure, I worry about having enough money
more than anything else. I save more than the average mid-20s-something, but I
have this irrational fear about it all disappearing. I need you to be grounded
on the topic and calm me down when I freak out.
4. To give me a lot of space.
I was raised an only child and those type of kids can go one of two
ways: strong and self-made or spoiled. Luckily, I'm the former but I've always
had plenty of alone time and it's important to me. It's not you -- I love you
already without even meeting you -- it's just that I have to have space to
clear my mind. I promise to always come home to you.
5. To have a lot of sex with me.
Oh, and I want a lot of babies, too. I know that
gotta-have-you-right-now kind of sex changes the longer you're in a
relationship (and especially when children come into the picture) but I always
want to feel physically connected to you. And I want you to always view me as
the sexiest woman you've ever known. In return, I promise to make an effort,
even when I'm absolutely exhausted. I hope you will too.
6. To listen to me overcommunicate about everything.
I tend to ramble when I feel insecure; it's my way of forcing someone to
say something. It's irrational and emotional and often unnecessary but if I
don't say it, it'll eat me up inside. This vulnerability is part of the reason
why I'm me
7. To accept that I use six different bottles of shampoo and
conditioner.
Okay, fine, I don't need them but one day when I run out mid-shower, do
you really want to be the one to run to the store to pick it up for me? Didn't
think so.
8. To tell me I don't look fat.
I might one day, but when I come out of our bedroom for some special
event and you only muster, "Let's get going," my feelings will be
really hurt. I'll pay you compliments and I'll rub your shoulders when you're
stressed, so please do the same for me.
9. To not be embarrassed when I cry in movies.
I'm super-independent, self-sufficient and strong, but dramas get me
everytime. Sometimes, even comedies. Just bring the tissues to the theater, k?
10. To speak your opinion.
I want to be in love with your mind, your heart, what you stand for,
what pisses you off, what makes you unique, what makes you turned on -- I want
to savor everything. So tell me everything. Share your life with me.
11. To plan regular date night.
Even if it's just in our sweats on a Friday night with takeout and a
movie. I hear of couples losing the spark and I haven't even found the
spark and yet I'm freaked out about losing it. Can we make a pact that we'll
have a date night once a week? I'm cool with pizza and A movie in our tv
set,just as long as we don't lose each other in our busy lives.
12. To have a mom who likes me.
We don't have to be besties be together all the time, but I want her to
like me. Especially more than she liked your college girlfriend.
13. To have a passion.
Or five of them. I never want to be anyone's everything, even yours. I
really believe no one can grow in shade and I don't ever want us to feel
suffocated by one another. I will support you in whatever you want to join,
play or be part of, but have something you love besides me.
14. To remind me you're sticking around.
Even when
the time is hard,and we start walking apart,remind me that u will always held
my hand no matter what
15. To feel loved.
And adored. And yet in every relationship I've had, I haven't felt loved
by the man I was with. Not truly, not fully, and not sincerely. I need to feel
love in my bones and see it in your eyes. Why? Because I will love you more
than you can imagine, and I need you to feel the same
LOVE
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